My top five tips for empaths in the corporate world
The corporate world can be tricky to navigate for anyone, but being a highly sensitive, intuitive empath in the corporate world can come with a unique set of challenges.
I used to worry that there was a misalignment between my big career ambitions in the corporate world and my quiet personality that naturally falls on the feminine energetic side.
I was afraid that I was mismatched with my corporate career, but I felt torn because I absolutely loved my work and my field, so I decided I had to do everything I could to make it work. I thought that meant fitting into the mould of what I thought a “successful leader” looked like in the corporate world and I found myself leaning into the masculine energy more and more.
I felt I needed to be:
Trying to be someone I wasn’t, I felt lost, paralyzed with fear and imposter syndrome and out of alignment, and as a result, my confidence floundered.
Here’s the thing: trying to be someone else will never work - you will never be able to mimic what someone else naturally is enough to actually feel truly successful, and you certainly will not feel fulfilled trying; trust me, I’ve been there.
If you feel misaligned and inauthentic in what you’re doing, chances are others will feel it too, so it is a game that no one wins.
What’s more, by hiding away your unique qualities, you’re depriving the world of your beautiful gifts - the gifts you were meant to let shine.
For me to actually start to find success and fulfillment in my career, I had to allow myself to break the chains of what I thought success looked like and create my own definition of success, my own definition of confidence, and my own definition of leadership.
I had to make space for the feminine - the energy I naturally live in, but had tried so hard to hide away; I had to recognize there can be a place for the feminine energy in the corporate world.
Making space for the feminine, I started to realize how beautifully it complemented the masculine energy of the structure of the corporate world.
I realized my own greatest strengths, my own unique leadership brand, were actually those qualities I had tried so hard to hide.
Letting those qualities shine, and actually letting my True Inner Self lead my career created a major shift for me and I started to see things happen and my career took off from this place of authenticity.
And do you want to know something really beautiful?
You can experience this too.
You can love your authentic self.
You can build a thriving career that feels amazing because it’s led by your True Inner Self.
You can create your very own leadership brand that honours your strengths and gifts.
I want to share with you my top five tips on how I built a career I felt at-home in and fell in love with and how I accepted and owned my intuitive gifts.
Rewrite your definitions and make space for the feminine:
If you’ve been operating from someone else’s definition of success, leadership and confidence, it’s time to let that go.
In this life, you can create your own definitions, your own standards that you actually feel aligned with.
Let yourself explore what it means to be a leader to YOU, what it means to be successful, to feel confident and release anything that doesn’t feel like it’s in integrity with your true self.
2. Network without feeling gross:
As an empath, introvert and highly sensitive person, I was not at all comfortable with the idea of networking and to make matters worse, I had learned a very rigid definition of what networking was: stepping into the spotlight, showcasing your strengths and asking for opportunities.
Now, to be fair, this is not the only definition of networking out there, but it’s what I was taught.
And, I had to let it go.
I had to decide what networking would be for me.
For me, as an empath, it had to be authentic, genuine connections with people and I had to go in with only one expectation: that I was making a connection and learning about someone and the work they do.
I did countless information interviews to learn about different areas within my field, and to be honest, once I reframed my expectations, they were actually fun; I got to learn about what people loved most about their work and why they were passionate about what they did.
So, if like me, you are not comfortable with traditional networking, reframe how you think of it and remove all of the pressure and all of the yuck behind it.
3. Reclaim your space in the workplace:
If you’re ready to acknowledge and own your gifts, it’s time to reclaim your place in the workplace.
When I lost my confidence, all I wanted to do was hide in the background, so when I decided to harness and leverage my own strengths I also had to reclaim my space in the workplace.
For me this meant using my voice (as quiet as it may be) and actually stating my thoughts, opinions and ideas. It also meant letting my managers and colleagues know what they could expect of me, and how I work best so that, as a team, we could leverage my strengths.
However it may look for you, it’s time to reclaim your place in the world - you have a right to be here and you have many gifts to share, so let them shine.
4. Take responsibility for your growth and your career:
No-one else can do this for you. If you have an area you know you need to work on, take ownership and work on it.
For me, I needed to address my confidence levels and get comfortable being uncomfortable.
Speaking up in meetings, giving presentations, stating my opinions, these were all things that made me uncomfortable, but I knew I needed to step out of my comfort zone and do it, and I made sure that I was doing the inner work in the background to back up my efforts because stepping out of your comfort zone is scary and you want to feel as secure and supported as possible when you do.
5. Build a strong foundation of self-love and a strong connection to your True Inner Self:
All of these steps are going to be much easier if you build a strong foundation of self-love and let your True Inner Self lead your career.
Self-love is going to protect you from needing constant external validation. As an empath you are highly sensitive to the opinions of others and it can be dangerous to let your self-worth hang on other people’s opinions of you, especially if you are redefining your role. To avoid the emotional rollercoaster of needing external validation, seek validation from within, love yourself unconditionally and let your True Inner Self lead you from a place of authenticity, integrity and love, free from the chains of the ego.
These five steps were the foundation for me to build my career and they were the catalyst to seeing results in my career. They also helped me to finally embrace my own gifts and stop hiding behind the image of who I thought I had to be.
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